A lifetime of memories thrown out one thing at a time.
What do you say to a woman with tears in her eyes, knowing that she could have kept a very precious item in her home and the last place that she and her late husband had shared?
The elderly woman was both amazed and a bit distraught by Bedezy on display at an expo on the Gold Coast, and I wasn’t to know the heartbreaking story she was about to tell me from only a few weeks before. For privacy, let’s call her Margot; she and husband Bill had been married since they were teenagers.
They had a family home in their early 20s, kids and kept that same address to that day. 60 years married, a lifetime of happiness and memories, then Bill passed, only a year before. Things changed, Margot had to manage things on her own, and she did as best she could until she couldn’t.
Help came, and all be it well-intended, there is a saying about that for a reason. See, Bill passed at home while they slept, and their bed was so very precious to her. The last place that she and Bill had in this life was there, and it got taken away.
Margot told me that she was not able to make the bed that she and her late husband once shared. She was assessed for a new bed, a King single, something that she could manage on her own. The delivery people brought in the new bed and took away her last marital bed; it was like losing Bill again.
As she saw what Bedezy could do and then realised that she could have kept her bed that meant so much to her, she couldn’t help but become upset and slightly angered at what had happened and that none of the changes were necessary. I apologised for what had happened, even though I was an innocent bystander in this life moment.
I couldn’t help but be moved by the story that she had shared with me. I now use it as a cautionary tale for anyone wanting to help an elderly person. Every person and situation is different; I recognise this, but please take some time to ask questions and to listen intently to
